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Returning to school after a break: a start that fits your child

Plan preparation, feelings and daily routines together rather than focusing only on an earlier bedtime.

Returning to school after a holiday can feel exciting or difficult. Calling reluctance laziness does not explain what is happening. Early mornings, friendships, schoolwork and separation can each create different needs. One solution will not fit every child.

Ask a more specific question

Instead of “Why do you not want school?” try “Which part of the morning feels hardest?” Listen without immediately correcting the answer. Some children express themselves more easily through play or drawing. Silence does not necessarily mean nothing is wrong; make room for another conversation.

Make the morning routine visible

Put packing, choosing clothes and leaving home into a simple sequence. Include the child in age-appropriate decisions. Completing one task the evening before may reduce morning pressure. Use the plan to notice where help is needed rather than turning it into a reward-and-punishment contest.

Communicate with the school

If difficulties continue, share specific examples: when they occur, what happened beforehand and what you observe. Do not dismiss possible bullying or safety concerns. Discuss support rather than exchanging blame in front of the child.

Know when to involve extra help

Intense fear, repeated physical complaints or substantial difficulty attending school deserve professional assessment. Physical symptoms should not automatically be labelled psychological. Adjustment is not a test a child must pass alone; adults can help change the conditions around it.

Sources and further reading

CDC — Positive Parenting Tips

https://www.cdc.gov/child-development/positive-parenting-tips/index.html